Adults often struggle with the question of, ‘Should I intervene in a child’s friendship problems?’
The Counselling, Mediation & Relationship Centre provides tips for parents who want to help their girls through friendship conflicts and teach them how to find good friends.
Some of the common bullying behaviors that parents should make girls aware of include: excluding someone from parties and play dates; mocking, teasing, or saying something mean but following it with “just joking”; starting rumors and gossip in person, online, or by cell phone; and threatening to take away friendship if someone doesn’t toe the line. By teaching kids that these actions are unacceptable, girls can “make a conscious choice to move away from friends who use these behaviors.”
Girls also need to know that it’s okay to be angry — but they need to express that anger appropriately.
When kids understand how a healthy friendship should look and feel, they are best equipped to remove themselves from friendships that are toxic and damaging. Fostering discussions and careful consideration of the values involved in making and maintaining healthy friendships is one of the most important things adults can do to help girls choose friendships wisely.”
Parents can to help their young daughters steer tricky areas such as friendship building, standing up for themselves and others, and expressing themselves in a healthy way. The need to be liked by others certainly isn’t new, but this generation of girls is growing up in an age when the “like” button shows the world just how well-liked they are. When girls acknowledge that they possess positive traits that make them interesting, strong, and likeable, however, the focus shifts and their self-confidence soars; & “likes” lose their importance.
Learn the steps to help parents empower young girls to be kind, confident leaders who work together and build each other up.
Donna Piromalli has been in private practice for approx. 6 years, helping individuals, couples and families.
She has extensive experience in couple and family therapy and is considered a specialist in these areas.
In her practice, she has helped people deal with complex trauma, affairs, complex mental health issues, adolescent behavioural problems behavioural issues in young children which are impacting parents and families, relationship issues and post-separation work.